Source: Wild at Heart by John Eldredge
Introduction
Understanding the Traditional Notions of Masculinity
From a young age, many boys are taught that being masculine is being tough, strong, unbreakable and superior. These traditional notions often promote qualities like dominance, aggression, and emotional suppression as ideals for men to embody. In the past men were seen as the most capable, most intelligent and the ideal representation of humanity, therefore oppressing femininity. We all know that, but now things have changed.
The Evolving Definition of Masculinity in Modern Society
In recent years, there has been a massive shift in societal attitudes towards masculinity. Women have finally accomplished acknowledgement, strength and dignity, however, in modern society it seems now the tables are turning. Although feminism is fantastic it’s been observed that men are beginning to move into the background now and must redefine what it means to be masculine. The question is; What is truly a man’s purpose?
Why the Conversation on Masculinity is Important Today
The goal has always been to accomplish equality, therefore the discussion around masculinity is crucial in today’s changing world as it impacts not only individual men but society as a whole. Obviously, challenging outdated beliefs and stereotypes, thanks to initiative and courageous women, we can now not only strengthen femininity, but also masculinity and not forget how much we need our men in society.
Where does Masculinity come from?
How does a little boy get his identity as a man? It is important to take note of how identity formation works in children. A child’s crucial gender identity is formed from the age 11- 18 years, by identifying the strongest with his/her parent of the opposite gender. With a boy it is the mother. She confirms and reinforces whether or not her child is masculine. Also, the role of the father is even more important in the household. Why? Because a boy’s father gives him the answer to the following very important and essential question; Am I capable? If a boy doesn’t get the proper answer he seeks, detrimental consequences lie ahead for the rest of his life (risky behaviour, porn, prostitution, etc.) unless Jesus Christ intervenes.
So, what is the role of Masculinity really?
‘When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways.’ – 1 Corinthians 13:11
Get up and start taking responsibility! Figure out what/why you’re doing what you’re doing. (Dylan Madden)
‘Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong. Let all that you do be done in love.’ – 1 Corinthians 16:13-14
Being a man doesn’t mean to be cruel and cold. Being strong doesn’t mean to never feel afraid, troubled or worried. You are a representation of God the Father’s hardcore and badass side, His strength. You are a warrior and protector!
Embrace vulnerability as a strength and not a weakness! Vulnerability is often seen as a weakness in men, but it can actually be a source of strength. By being vulnerable and open about their emotions, men can form deeper connections with others and cultivate a sense of authenticity.
The Role of Emotional Intelligence in Modern Masculinity
Emotional intelligence is essential in navigating the complexities of modern life. Men who possess this trait are better equipped to communicate effectively, manage stress, and build healthy relationships.
Mental Health and Well-being
Breaking the Stigma Around Male Mental Health
There is a stigma surrounding male mental health that often prevents men from seeking help when needed. By normalizing conversations around mental health, we can encourage men to prioritize their well-being.
Seeking Help and Support for Emotional Well-being
Men are often taught to “tough it out” when faced with emotional struggles, but seeking professional help is a sign of strength, not weakness. By reaching out for support, men can learn healthy coping mechanisms and improve their mental health.
A word for the ladies
In today’s world it can still feel for many women that they are still being undermined and have to work extremely hard to prove themselves out there. That may be true, but let’s be honest for a minute. Women have come a long way and achieved a lot. So, let’s not lose our gentleness and vulnerability as ladies. Let us encourage and uplift our men! Believe it or not, the men in our lives just want to be loved and accepted just like us! You are more than just breasts, ass and a pretty face.
What do you think? Leave a comment!
* How can individuals support the redefinition of masculinity in their everyday lives?
* What are some practical steps one can take to promote healthy masculinity?
* How does toxic masculinity manifest in different aspects of society?
I like this.. Why do we have to break men down to build ourselves up. I do believe men also need to express their feelings and not be judged for it (as in you need to be strong and not cry). I actually want a connection, I want a man to talk with me and share with me, I don’t need strong and authoritative. Otherwise I feel more alone than anything.
Thank you! I agree with you completely. Men can be vulnerable too. I also want that in a man.